What is confidence?  Why are some people more confident than others?  Do the confident people have some special skills, some special power, that those without confidence lack?

Well, yes and no.  They have a special power, but… you have that power, too.  You just have to activate it.

To my mind, “confidence” means the knowledge that you can make things happen.  It doesn’t mean that you can do anything, but rather knowing that, if you set your mind to it and do the work required, you can do it.

People who aren’t confident just assume they can’t do it, so they don’t try.  There’s a quote that’s attributed to Henry Ford: “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t–you’re right.”

So what do you do if you don’t have confidence, if you don’t “think you can?”  How do you change that thinking?  We know that ideas that get focused on grow and develop.  So don’t focus on thoughts about what you can’t do or examples of things that haven’t worked out in the past.  Rather, focus your thinking on examples of times that you have gotten things done, times you’ve been successful.  Think about that for a minute.  When you have you accomplished something and felt great?  Focus on those feelings and watch your confidence grow!