I recently completed a post-booking survey for Expedia. One of the questions asked whether I felt “amazed” or “delighted” by the experience.
I paused. Not because the experience was bad – it wasn’t. It worked exactly as intended. I found a hotel, compared prices, booked it quickly, and moved on with my life.
But that was the point. I wasn’t hoping to be amazed. I wasn’t seeking delight. I was in task mode. I just wanted the process to work efficiently. That question felt off not because it was poorly worded, but because it revealed a deeper misunderstanding about how people actually experience value.
Many digital platforms – travel booking sites, airline apps, banking portals, insurance dashboards – are not emotional destinations. They are functional systems. Their primary job is to reduce effort, reduce uncertainty, and reduce time. When those systems work well, the dominant emotion isn’t delight. It’s relief. And relief is rarely measured.
Instead, many companies reach for aspirational language – delight, wow, magic – and then build surveys to validate those ideas. The problem is that when you ask emotional questions of a functional task, you don’t get insight. You get noise. Worse, you risk steering teams toward the wrong priorities: polishing moments that don’t matter while overlooking friction that does.
There’s a subtle but important difference between no emotion and no emotional work required. In many everyday buying contexts, people don’t want to be engaged – they want to be done. That’s not a failure of brand ambition; it’s an expression of buyer reality.
This is something I see repeatedly in my research. Emotion still matters, but it’s not always where companies expect it to show up. Often, the strongest positive signal isn’t excitement or delight, but quiet confidence that the system will do what it promises without getting in the way.
Sometimes, the best experience is the one you barely notice.
This pattern – and others like it – is a core theme in my upcoming book, Mind of the American Buyer, which looks at how people actually make decisions in the real world, rather than how brands imagine they do.
Curious where your customers are actually seeking delight – and where they just want things to work? You can reach me at info at bureauwest.com if you’d like to discuss the best way to understand that difference.



